The Bully in the School Yard

The batter on the playground has been a constant for a long time. But we now know that bullying can leave serious emotional scars for the victims, if still long enough and hard enough. Bullying is an attempt by a person or group to intimidate them or to harm someone who is weaker or more vulnerable defined. It can involve a wide range of activities. These activities could be:

• take



• press



• threatening or intimidating



• malicious teasing or insults



• stolen or damaged personal items



• spreading rumors about another



• encourage others to reject or exclude someone from a group



• or insensitive sexual comments about a person.

The Internet has become a new instrument of a tyrant. She or he can harass the victim through the publication of humiliating or intimidating information on a peer on a website or sending threatening e-mails. Of course, the bullying has not always use physical force to injure his victims. In fact, the verbal harassment is used twice as common as physical aggression in bullying.

The National Association of School Psychologists, in his 2006 help children at home and school Publication emphasizes how easily it is for adults to minimize the impact of insults and other verbal teasing on children. Bullying occurs in racial, ethnic and socio-economic level. Boys are twice as likely as girls to be bats, and almost twice as likely victims of bullies. Both boys and girls can find creative ways to be cruel to each other. However, boys tend more physical aggression, while girls tend to spread rumors and more subtle and indirect forms of aggression.

bullying, which may continue for a long time negative effects on self esteem and feelings of the victims have self-worth. Because of their fear and anxiety, these effects are:

• always afraid to talk to about their situation and the suffering in silence



• the probability of a socially isolated, leading to depression.


themselves to blame for the
• bullying.

to avoid

• having difficulty concentrating or focusing in school and even attend school.



• in extreme cases the victim may begin to carry a weapon to school for protection or to wage a violent attack on her revenge bully. Some victims actually committed suicide out of despair.

What can parents do if he or she believes their child is being bullied? The first step is to obtain as much information as possible about the situation. It is important not to overreact or blame your child or the child that bullying. Ask questions about the behavior does not intimidate your child or teen and style of interaction with the bat, not interrogated in a way. Often, a child or teenager will not be disclosed because of embarrassment or shame or bullying, the belief that the disclosure of bullying make the situation worse. It is important to reassure your child that may escalate the situation without being successfully treated.

The first approach to teaching your child or teenager alternative ways of dealing with the bat. Some approaches might also be teaching your child or teen, how to track not responding to the thugs away, walking will help, if possible, whenever, or to more self-confidence. If these approaches do not work, then it is advisable to ask your school guidance counselor or school psychologist for help. Most school districts now have a zero tolerance policy for bullying and have specific guidelines for dealing with bullying in the school setting. Many school districts across the country are now implementing the school-wide bullying prevention programs that promote a positive environment in school and community to address the issue.

 

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From Linda Young, Ph.D., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

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